If the title of this confused you, let me explain. We all have negative voices in our heads. You know what I am talking about. They make you want to feel sorry for yourself. They say "you'll never be good enough" or "you'll never amount to anything". But those are big, fat lies! Don't give in. Instead of focusing on what you don't have, focus on what you do have. I encourage you to take out a paper and pen, and jot down 5 things that you are grateful for.
Today I am grateful for ( Sample)
A roof over my head
A warm meal
A family that love me
A steady job
And it might seem mundane or overly simple, but often we don't realize how much those little things matter, until they're gone. Believe me when I say, there is always something to be thankful for.
Another thing, stop comparing yourself to others. You will never be them and they will never be you. When you say things like " well how come they're married, and I can't seem to even get a date" it focuses on what you don't have. What if instead you said"they're married and that's great for them. I am nowhere near ready for that kind of commitment in my life right now, but maybe some day" Then it becomes less emotional and approaches things rationally. Because emotions cloud our judgement. But having those emotions doesn't make us weak, it just makes us incredibly human. So treat yourself gently.
During this month, I challenge you to recognize the blessings in your life every day. And you may find that the more you focus on what you do have, the less power those negative voices in your head have. It's all about perspective. God bless you my friends!